You is smart
You is important
-Aibileen Clark, from The Help
Notice that she doesn't say, pretty, cute or beautiful. I have discussed this with my other mom friends who have daughters...the tendency to comment on looks, which is not what I want my daughter to focus on. It is really hard when an adorable little girl in some sparkly cute outfit comes bounding in the room to not say, "oh how cute!"
My goal is to say, You are kind, smart and important. What are you reading, what did you learn today, how are you feeling??
The journey through being a little girl to becoming a women is hard enough without your looks becoming all you feel people see in you when they look at you.
My darling baby girl, may you grow to be kind, smart and important.